Parents must decide on their values and attitudes first, and then make a decision. It is not illegal to drink in front of your kids and in no way are a you a bad parent if enjoy a glass of wine in front of them. However, make sure you instill in their minds – There are things adults are allowed to do that children and teens are not.
Tips on how to blend drinking around your kids and being a good parent:
- Set a good example. Parents are sending a bad message if they get intoxicated in front of their child – they need to have a consistent message. No double standard.
- It can send a bad message if every night you come home from work and need a drink. What’s the hidden message there? “I need a substance to unwind.”
- Parents must realize kids watch everything, learn from them, and want to be like them
Set Rules And Stick To Them
- Parents have THE biggest influence on their children when it comes to drinking behavior. Children are most likely worried about getting grounded, getting their car keys taken away.
- Most teens respect their parents and want their approval..
- Talk to your children about it, By ages 8 to 11, they’re learning about health, their bodies and they want to do what friends are doing. By ages 12 to 17, they know who’s using it, and they need to know more about their taking responsibility for use. They need to know it’s OK to come to you.
- Conversations must include: information, your stand, the risks and consequences of drinking.
Know Your Child
- Every child is different- different in their behavior, nature and may be everything possible. So, know your child first, keep communication open. Always try and be available whenever they need to talk or need advice.
